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Dealing with Your Loss of Employment

If you've ever been Surplused, RIFted, Laid Off, or informed that your position was being Eliminated or your cost center Downsized, you can probably still recall the feeling of loss and grief as you sat across from your manager and heard the news. How did you handle this unexpected detour on the road of life, a road on which traveling had been smooth, until now, with very few sections ever 'under repair', and bumps over which you rolled with hardly a jolt?

# 8

In the hierarchy of the 20 top stressors in life, losing one's job is #8. It's accompanied in the Top Ten by death (of a loved one), divorce and going to jail! Career and income loss can have serious consequences on lifestyle and health. Before you are whole enough to begin job-searching (assuming you valued your position and didn't run from your building on the last day yelling "I'm Free! I'm Free! Thank Heaven I'm Free at Last!"), you need to deal with any negative emotions which this surprise action triggered.

It's difficult, sometimes impossible, to catch a glimpse of the sun's rays behind all of the storm clouds, but we all know the sun is there...and eventually it will shine through (or so Mary Poppins promised). While awaiting that day, there are many self-help activities that will prepare you for new employment - and new challenges. Here are a few:

One of the few constants in life is c-h-a-n-g-e and the survivors and achievers are those who deal with the waves that swamp them, by doing what is necessary to reach the surface, and the life restoring light and air.

As our company soft drink deliveryman used to say...

CHANGE IS INEVITABLE...EXCEPT FROM A VENDING MACHINE.

-Sonya Rolls
Sonya Rolls has been in Human Resources management for more than 20 years, in a variety of environments including engineering, medicine, psychiatric hospital, manufacturing, banking and university.
srollss@netscape.net