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Negotiations 101: Start With What You Want

Star Maker Rule #1: Youíll never get anything if you donít ask for it!

A client called me recently for help in negotiating a job offer. She had been out of work for many months and she was feeling desperate. When I asked her what she wanted out of the negotiation process, she said she was afraid to ask for anything much because she needed the job so badly. She didnít feel she had much to negotiate with.

Itís true that in a situation like this, the other side appears to have more power than you do. But, once a commitment is made to you in the form of an offer, the power moves to your side of the board. While you wonít want to screw up the deal by being over the top in your requests (read: demands), it is still perfectly OK to ask for something. If you stop yourself from asking, then you are not negotiating. You are capitulating. Itís only a negotiation when you are willing to engage the other side in a give-and-take dance for the tangibles and/or intangibles you wish to acquire.

What do you really want?

Letís look at how a situation like this one might actually go. First, be honest. What do you really want? More money? More vacation? Delayed start date? What are you willing to give up, concede or modify to get what you want? In the example, this individual was being hired as a contractor. Her customer offered to pay her a small amount before starting the work and two additional payments over the ten-month assignment. My client, who hadnít had a regular paycheck in over a year, wanted to receive her fee in monthly installments. In fact, she would have loved to be on their payroll for the length of the assignment so she could participate in their medical plan. Tall order, huh? Not necessarily!

What does the other side want?

Itís just as important to know or look for clues about what the other side wants. In this case, the customer really wanted my client for the project because her background, experience and industry connections were both outstanding and rare. Did they want her enough to dicker?

What are you willing to give up?

The customer had included a substantial guaranteed performance bonus for achieving specific results as a part of the deal. That bonus became a lever for my client to ask for what she wanted. She was willing to exchange part of the guaranteed bonus for a regular paycheck and benefits.

How do you think it turned out? Scroll down for the answer.

Want to be a better negotiator? The best negotiators . . .

Did my client get what she wanted? If you said, ďYes, your client got what she wantedĒ, youíre only half-right. Both sides got what they wanted! (For more on being a win/win negotiator, stop by the FREE Resources page on my web site at starmakercoaching.com)

Whether itís who moves through the intersection first or what the terms of the employment agreement are, life is full of negotiations.

Describe a situation in your life right now that involves a negotiation. Write down what you want in as much detail as you can think of. What are some of the things (tangible and intangible) the other side wants? What are you willing to give up to get what you want?

Tools & Resources

Bargaining for Advantage: Negotiation Strategies for Reasonable People by G. Richard Shell

Negotiate Your Job Offer by Mary B. Simon

The Tao of Negotiation: How You Can Prevent, Resolve and Transcend Conflick in Work and Everyday Life by Joel Edelman and Mary Beth Crain

-Mariette Edwards

Mariette Edwards is a business and career strategist, consultant, speaker and writer. Mariette publishes Star Maker, a free monthly on-line newsletter dedicated to professional success. Visit her web site at starmakercoaching for more information.

mariette@starmakercoaching.com

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