June 19, 2018

Jobseekers: Sign In | Sign Up Recruiters

Career Advice

Share this article:
Bookmark and Share

Networking for Shy People

Hereís the paradox: networking is by far the best way to learn about other companies and new job opportunities, but few job seekers want to do it. The main reasons include:

If you can relate to any of these reasons, then I have a tip for you: Play to your strengths. Chances are youíre a good listener. Capitalize on that. Develop a strategy that gets the other person talking while you listen. You can do that by creating and memorizing five good questions.

These questions canít be answered with a Yes or No. They are questions that everyone has an answer to, and allow the other person to talk easily about themselves. Here are some examples:

By having these questions memorized you will not feel like you will run out of things to talk about, because your conversation partner will do most of the talking, and you can use your listening skills. Periodically reflect back to them what you hear, and ask follow up questions. If you do, two things will happen.

First, the more they talk, the more they think you are terrific. Second, they will invariably ask how they can help you. Thatís the graceful opening that allows you to ask about companies or job openings.

Besides listening, what are your other strengths? If youíre not sure, try a career assessment. There are some powerful career management tools that can identify your top motivations and talents.

-Henry Neils

Henry Neils is President and Founder of, the leading online career assessment company focused on helping employees and employers work together for their mutual benefit. Millions of people have gained personal insight into their careers by using the tools, such as MAPPô (Motivational Appraisal of Personal Potential), provided at

Top of Page